Posts Tagged ‘spiritual’

Prayer- It Doesn’t Work that Way

July 15, 2013

Most people believe that their prayers are limited to those formal times when they specifically bow their heads and address God directly. It doesn’t work that way!

Below is a conversation where a wise little old lady helps a business woman see the reality of her prayers.

 “Okay, about how many hours a day was your focus on your products, employees and customers?”

 “Almost every waking hour was geared to that end. At least 12-16 hours every day.”

 “And how many hours per day would you say you spent venting?

 “Well, just guessing? I’d say I spent about 15 minutes lashing out and expressing my woes angrily to God. That’s about all the energy I had left after working such long hours.”

 I paused, once again reflecting on the pain I was able to pack into those sessions. Then I added, “So….. that would be one fourth of an hour per day.”

 Another pause …………… “Okay “Okay! I get it.

  You’re saying that my focus was at least 50-1 on producing a good product to yelling at God …Wow!”

 I was really kind of shocked by my revelation. In my mind, I spent all my time being angry, but in reality, she was right.

 “I’m not really in tune with the prayer part here, but I sure understand the math. And if I go back to the idea of what you focus on expands that you have been telling me about, I guess it really does ring true here.”

 “See Angela, we are always praying.  Our every thought, action and attitude is telling God what we really want in our lives. 

 Your life IS your prayer!”

  “Can’t you see it?   The life you lead, where you put your energy, is your most prevalent prayer. And certainly a life focused on producing the best products and dedicated to caring for the welfare of your employees was a prayer that was continually answered.  Everything you are telling me, about your employee calling you, about blindly going where the problems were… Well, they were both answers to the prayer that the largest part of your life had become.

 Your prayers were always being answered. You have always been taken care of. You just haven’t been able to see it. Because you did not realize you were getting exactly what you were asking for.

 The more energy, the more attention you put into anything, the more powerful connection there is to God’s help.  And you are never more than a breath away from it.

_______________________________________________________Dina Dove

As an author, inspirational speaker, and coach, I am dedicated to helping people remember who they really are at their deepest core and discover their unique path to career and personal fulfillment.

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Balancing the Laws

July 5, 2013

Truly successful people operate in accordance with the Natural Laws on a consistent basis. You may have heard of the Law of Attraction. It is one of them.

The natural laws by which the world operates are as real as gravity. The problem is, they cannot be seen with the eyes. There are many references both secular and religious.. Here are some well known biblical references.

“Seek and you will find.”

“Pray without ceasing.”

“You reap what you sow.”

They aren’t just “good ideas”, as one might think. They are the premises by which the universe operates.  We do not take them seriously enough.

If you were to take only these three with the same belief you give to the law of gravity, you would have amazing transformation in your career, relationships, and finances.

Balance your implementation of the natural laws. Operate according to them, and your life will magically fall into place.

______________________________________________Dina Dove

As an author, inspirational speaker, and coach, I am dedicated to helping people remember who they really are at their deepest core and discover their unique path to career and personal fulfillment.

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Change, Glorious Change

July 2, 2013

While many people balk at change, I love it. In fact, when there is not enough change in my life, I get complacent and feel like life is standing still.

Over the last couple days, I’ve totally moved out of one part of my huge house and into the other half. It’s given me a chance to shake things up a bit.

Look at all the great things that have happened just from that change.

  1. I’ve rediscovered many things that I’d completely forgotten that I had.
  2. In rediscovering my high school yearbook and looking at my 17 year old self on the pages, I noticed how much my physical appearance had changed.
  3. In that change I also became more grateful  for the fact that I’m much wiser and more contented. So what if there a wrinkles. I’ve come to love myself as I am.

Back to the move and the positive aspects of that change, I am invigorated by putting my life back together in a new way. I’ve cleaned out the old and started anew in a fresh office, looking out on a new balcony.

Shake your life up now and then. It’s a boost to your creativity.

Ah! The glory of change.

______________________________________________Dina Dove

As an author, inspirational speaker, and coach, I am dedicated to helping people remember who they really are at their deepest core and discover their unique path to career and personal fulfillment.

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Characteristics of Cooperation

April 24, 2013

Yesterday I wrote about the Cooperation Mindset. Today, I’ve provided a list of characteristics indicative of those who practice it.

The way truly successful people think is every bit as important as what they do. In fact, it is the engine that drives the train.

 MOTIVATING FACTORS                   

  • They see opportunity everywhere
  • They are team builders and team players
  • They know everyone has wisdom to share
  • They work cooperatively, not competitively
  • They operate in Win-Win methodology
  • They understand the laws of money
  • They sincerely want success for everyone


  • They look ordinary
  • They are generous
  • They are grateful
  • They laugh easily
  • They feel blessed
  • They know how to love
  • They appreciate what they have
  • Their cup is at least half full 

                                                                                                                                                         Dina Dove                                        

As an author, inspirational speaker, and coach, I am dedicated to helping people remember who they really are at their deepest core and discover their unique path to career and personal fulfillment.

For further information, please contact me at


The Cooperation Mindset

April 23, 2013

 Cooperation has at it’s root, abundance, that there is always enough for everyone. It is up to us to see that abundance and share it with the world.

 It seems like most of the time, our real ulterior motive is to have our own needs met. And, admit it or not, we attempt to seek out those who will be the most influential in helping us meet those goals; To an extent, ignoring all others.

I’d like to challenge you to try something new. Become part of a new paradigm. Next time you attend a networking event, go with the sole intent of trying to give as much as you can give.    Go to Give!

Drop all expectation of what you could receive and, instead, see how many people we can help find the things they are seeking.

Gandhi said, “Be the change you want to see in the world.” I wholeheartedly agree.

Consider such a gesture and then imagine what it would be like to be the recipient of that kind of gift. Wouldn’t it feel great to be approached with that kind of generosity? Both the giving and the receiving are sides of this paradigm as rewarding!

Sounds like a fairytale world, doesn’t it? That we would not have to fight to be heard? Not have to push ourselves and our agenda……. But instead, everyone involved sincerely wants to help each other.

I found that and now, having seen it work,  I’m spoiled.

There is an international organization, CEO Space, that practices this technique on a huge scale.  In order to join, your initial agreement is that you come with the commitment to help as many people as you can to get what they want. And… you promise to think bigger than yourself. You pull out the stops in order to help others.

When you greet another member for the first time, you ask them “What’s your project and what do you need next?” With every person coming together with the same intent, it creates the perfect example of the ‘Cooperation Mindset.’

Dina Dove

As an author, inspirational speaker, and coach, I am dedicated to helping people remember who they really are at their deepest core and discover their unique path to career and personal fulfillment.

For further information, please contact me at

Just Stay

April 13, 2013

We’ve all heard that everything happens for a reason.

I think the universe is perfectly designed in such a way that there is no encounter and no experience that is an accident. And, even more amazing than that. That there is a blessing in every moment, no matter what it looks like at the time. God is working His magic in our lives every second of every day.

I normally write original content for my blog, but today I just had to share this story that I received in an email. In my searches, I could not find who wrote it or whose story it actually is. It is so powerful in its message of blessing that I could not resist sharing it with you.

Just Stay

A nurse took the tired, anxious serviceman to the bedside. ”Your son is here,” she said to the old man.
She had to repeat the words several times before the patient’s eyes opened.

Heavily sedated because of the pain of his heart attack, he dimly saw the young uniformed Marine standing outside the oxygen tent. He reached out his hand. The Marine wrapped his toughened fingers around the old man’s limp ones, squeezing a message of love and encouragement.

The nurse brought a chair so that the Marine could sit beside the bed. All through the night the young Marine sat there in the poorly lighted ward, holding the old man’s hand and offering him words of love and strength.
Occasionally, the nurse suggested that the Marine move away and rest awhile.

He refused. Whenever the nurse came into the ward, the Marine was oblivious to her and of the night noises of the hospital – the clanking of the oxygen tank, the laughter of the night staff members exchanging greetings, the cries and moans of the other patients.

Now and then she heard him say a few gentle words. The dying man said nothing, only held tightly to his son all through the night.

Along towards dawn, the old man died. The Marine released the now lifeless hand he had been holding and went to tell the nurse. While she did what she had to do, he waited.

Finally, she returned. She started to offer words of sympathy, but the Marine interrupted her.

”Who was that man?” he asked.

The nurse was startled, “He was your father,” she answered.
”No, he wasn’t,” the Marine replied. “I never saw him before in my life.”

”Then why didn’t you say something when I took you to him?”

”I knew right away there had been a mistake, but I also knew he needed his son, and his son just wasn’t here. When I realized that he was too sick to tell whether or not I was his son, knowing how much he needed me, I stayed.
I came here tonight to find a Mr. William Grey. His Son was killed in Iraq today, and I was sent to inform him. What was this gentleman’s name?
The nurse with tears in her eyes answered, Mr. William Grey………….

The next time someone needs you … just be there. Just stay.

Who Will You Be Today, Your Authentic Self or …?

September 26, 2009

I’ve long considered writing a book about all the personalities we employ as we go about the days and years of our lives.  Of course, there is the daughter, the employee, the mom and the wife, but there are also more complex versions of all of us that we employ based on the circumstance and our frame of mind at the time. Some show us who we want to be more of and others give us a view into our… well… let’s call it our “self improvement needed” side.

We all lose our way from time to time and, believe me, I am no exception. I’ve recently had an extended encounter with my ‘Over Accommodating’ personality. As many of you know, I speak for a good number of women’s groups around the country.  The churches and organizations who host me can get a very good idea of the subject matter of my talks by first reading The Baglady’s Guide to Elegant Living. In the book I talk about finding your authentic self and living from that place.

I’m so thankful for the overall freedom that my hosts afford me. We discuss in advance what part of my message will be of most interest to the attendees. I do make notes to speak from and then, once on stage, I let spirit lead me. It is my intent to entertain and, hopefully, impart a bit or two of wisdom to the audiences.

Starting in April, as I prepared to work with a new group, it was requested that I put in writing what I would say, and, trying to be accommodating, I did that. They had other requirements of what I needed to include and so I added and rearranged. We were working back and forth for quite some time and I was beginning to be concerned that in order to meet the restrictions I would either have to memorize or read my talk. That is certainly different than my normal presentation method, but I wanted to be cooperative.

It all kind of snuck up on me, but looking back on it now, I see that I started dragging my feet. Not on just that presentation, but on my work in general. Something just didn’t feel right and I found myself doing everything I could think of to avoid my work.  I’ve been walking around feeling guilty about doing nothing productive, but I just haven’t been able to make myself do much of anything for a couple of months now.

It was only last night that I finally got it, I’d lost my way. I’d forgotten who I was. I’d been so busy trying to be what someone else needed me to be that I forgot who I was. And so it was like I was wandering aimlessly in the desert with no water in sight.  The ‘Over Accommodating’ personality had descended upon me like a thief in the night. Little by little, I had tried to make myself fit into someone else’s truth, and had lost track of myself.

A round peg doesn’t fit into a square hole, but we can sure wear ourselves out trying. And often, as in my case, blindly so. Discovering my true, authentic self, and continuing to live from that place, is my real work.  And whenever I forget, my step will be a little less lively. Inspiration will wane.

Last night, after a barely perceptible four month slide away from my true self, I finally realized that I just couldn’t do it. In my effort to be cooperative, I had abandoned ‘me’. Neither party was at fault. We simply were not compatible.

All it took was remembering my true self and recognizing that I was out of alignment. Once able to see the problem, I got back on the right track. And immediately things changed.  Today my life is once again filled with light. I’m able to work and inspiration has returned.

Fortunes without a Cookie

March 20, 2009

Isn’t that a neat title? Kind of cryptic. It makes you wonder what the blog will be about.

Surprise, surprise! The title is it. Unfortunately I have no subject to match it. I’ve got a bunch of titles for new books, too. No content, just the titles.

Writer’s block, you might ask? Maybe.

Or… maybe I’m just finally ready to let you in on my ‘quirky side’, as my sister calls it. Sonja would be so much better at telling these stories than me. So, I’ll tell a quirky story about my family instead. Because, (secret revealed) our entire family is… shall we say… unique.

We’ve always been atypical.

Imagine this.

In the 1950s our mom and dad had what seemed like, on the outside, a normal relationship; 1 car, 5 kids born in 6 years, dad worked and mom stayed home washing diapers, cooking and cleaning. 

But guess what else.  

While dad was at work, mom remodeled the house. I don’t mean that she hired it done. Mom tore down walls and rebuilt others.

She studied Uri Geller and the Roswell incident. We did experiments with small pyramids and their preserving powers. 

Mom studied the Bible and metaphysics.

Think of it, a family of 7 on a butcher’s salary. There wasn’t extra money for anything. But I don’t ever remember hearing the words, we can’t afford it.

No, we heard that “Your father is on an economy drive.”

 Same message, different energy.

Cool, huh?  

We learned to be resourceful and find ways to make money if we wanted something.

With 5 kids eating everything in sight dad did figure out how to preserve a treat just for him. He bought coconut cookies. He was the only one in the family who would eat them.

Smart dad.

So, let’s see. I actually may be able to tie this back to the title in spite of myself.  I got the cookie. And, you know… 

Without a doubt, my family has been my truest fortune.