Posts Tagged ‘life changing’

The Ugly Made Beautiful

July 16, 2013

Perfection is a matter of perspective.

I used to be a producing artist. Art was my life.  (Now I am a non-producing artist) Anyway,  I always ended up with the pieces that ‘weren’t good enough to sell’.

Now, years later, as I look at them in my home, I see them with different eyes. Funny thing…. I can’t for the life of me figure out what I thought was wrong with them in the first place.

Time has given me a whole different view of perfection.

Isn’t that just the way it goes? We are so terribly critical of our own  writing, work, body, …. You name it. And yet, we tend to see more good in others and the things they do.

The reason is that we are looking with different, less judging eyes.

It took a long time for me to see those pieces as perfect works of creativity. And, It was all a matter of perspective. Nothing changed about the pieces. As time went on, my focus changed.

And suddenly, the ugly was made beautiful.

_________________________________________________Dina Dove

As an author, inspirational speaker, and coach, I am dedicated to helping people remember who they really are at their deepest core and discover their unique path to career and personal fulfillment.

For further information, please contact me at Dina@BagladysGuide.com

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Prayer- It Doesn’t Work that Way

July 15, 2013

Most people believe that their prayers are limited to those formal times when they specifically bow their heads and address God directly. It doesn’t work that way!

Below is a conversation where a wise little old lady helps a business woman see the reality of her prayers.

 “Okay, about how many hours a day was your focus on your products, employees and customers?”

 “Almost every waking hour was geared to that end. At least 12-16 hours every day.”

 “And how many hours per day would you say you spent venting?

 “Well, just guessing? I’d say I spent about 15 minutes lashing out and expressing my woes angrily to God. That’s about all the energy I had left after working such long hours.”

 I paused, once again reflecting on the pain I was able to pack into those sessions. Then I added, “So….. that would be one fourth of an hour per day.”

 Another pause …………… “Okay “Okay! I get it.

  You’re saying that my focus was at least 50-1 on producing a good product to yelling at God …Wow!”

 I was really kind of shocked by my revelation. In my mind, I spent all my time being angry, but in reality, she was right.

 “I’m not really in tune with the prayer part here, but I sure understand the math. And if I go back to the idea of what you focus on expands that you have been telling me about, I guess it really does ring true here.”

 “See Angela, we are always praying.  Our every thought, action and attitude is telling God what we really want in our lives. 

 Your life IS your prayer!”

  “Can’t you see it?   The life you lead, where you put your energy, is your most prevalent prayer. And certainly a life focused on producing the best products and dedicated to caring for the welfare of your employees was a prayer that was continually answered.  Everything you are telling me, about your employee calling you, about blindly going where the problems were… Well, they were both answers to the prayer that the largest part of your life had become.

 Your prayers were always being answered. You have always been taken care of. You just haven’t been able to see it. Because you did not realize you were getting exactly what you were asking for.

 The more energy, the more attention you put into anything, the more powerful connection there is to God’s help.  And you are never more than a breath away from it.

_______________________________________________________Dina Dove

As an author, inspirational speaker, and coach, I am dedicated to helping people remember who they really are at their deepest core and discover their unique path to career and personal fulfillment.

For further information, please contact me at Dina@BagladysGuide.com

www.dinadove.com

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Are You Waiting for Perfection?

July 14, 2013

Here’s a story that might alter your point of view.

Many years ago, in an episode of Lou Grant, the paper’s editor, upon finding that his elderly mother did not have long to live, went home to spend her last days with her.

As he paced around in her bedroom, he was lamenting the fact that he had always hoped to find the perfect time to take her on a wonderful trip, just the two of them. And now they would not be able to go.

She sweetly motioned for him to come over and sit beside her and told him that he was living his life and that was exactly what she had wanted him to do. She added that he had been the perfect son for her and that she was satisfied with her life.

And then she told him a story that I’ve never forgotten.

She reminded him about his father who had passed years before…

“Do you remember how your father used to pack a picnic lunch and we’d head off to the ocean? Your dad so wanted to find the perfect place with the perfect view for our lunch. And we would drive and drive. There were lots of beautiful places, but he wanted to find the perfect place. Hours  would pass. I’d suggest, “Why don’t we stop here?”

But your dad would respond that he wanted to wait for the perfect spot.  With all the places we could have stopped, none were perfect enough for our picnic. Late in the day we ended up eating our picnic in the car as the sun was getting ready to set, never having stopped, because he never found the perfect place.

And then she focused back on her son, “My life has been wonderful. I couldn’t ask for a better son. I do not need to go on that trip. Just sit with me here and let’s enjoy the time we have right now.”

Don’t miss the beauty of the life you have right here, right now, while you are busy looking for some other situation or some other time when things will be perfect.

Change you perception and find the perfection in the present moment.

______________________________________________________________Dina Dove

As an author, inspirational speaker, and coach, I am dedicated to helping people remember who they really are at their deepest core and discover their unique path to career and personal fulfillment.

For further information, please contact me at Dina@BagladysGuide.com

www.dinadove.com

http://www.facebook.com/BagladysGuide

Who are Your Fab Five?

July 12, 2013

The people you hang around with can tell you a great deal about your life. In fact, they are the main indicators of it.

Good, bad, or ugly, your family will always be your family. Ya gotta love um. But outside your family, you have a lot to say about those you spend time with. So, are you choosing wisely?

Take a minute to run the numbers. Assess how well your ‘Fab Five’ are in alignment with the person you are wanting to be.

1.  List the 5 people, outside of immediate family, that you spend the most time with.

2.  Next to each name, put the number between 1 and 10 (10 being the highest) that best matches the quality of that person’s life.

3.  Determine the average. The resulting number is probably just about where you stand at this time.

Do you want to bring your number up? It’s not that hard. Start making small strides by spending more time in uplifting situations and with uplifting people.  Before too long you’ll see positive changes in your own number.

_____________________________________________________________________Dina Dove

As an author, inspirational speaker, and coach, I am dedicated to helping people remember who they really are at their deepest core and discover their unique path to career and personal fulfillment.

For further information, please contact me at Dina@BagladysGuide.com

www.dinadove.com

http://www.facebook.com/BagladysGuide

The Rich Tapestry of Every Life

July 11, 2013

There are messages woven into the circumstances of each individual life. It is left to us to discover them, unravel their meaning, and find the blessing within.

I met an amazing little girl. Even at five years old, she was wise beyond her years and able to carry on a conversation as if she were an adult. She was, however, holding a crushing loss on her heart. She felt lost in a world without a mother. By the time she was seven, we were buddies and spent our time together playing a question game. We took turns coming up with queries to answer. At first we learned each other’s favorite colors and ice cream flavors. Over time, our questions became much more creative and the answer much more creative and the answers were more insightful as to our deeper thoughts on life. Her feelings of loss and wishing she had her mother would work into so many of her answers. I loved her, but no love can replace that of a mother. At least I could listen.

As she grew up, new answers would emerge. Her answer to “Who would you most like to have dinner with/” changed from Jesus to to her latest pop star; things like that. But longing for the mother she lost was central to many of her answers.

Then one day came the repeated question we had answered so many times before, “If you could change one thing about your past, what would it be?” In the past, her mom would not have died. But now, the 14 year old, long deprived of her mother answered, “You know, I used to wish that mom had never died, and, of course, I would have loved to have a mother. But now I see that I wouldn’t change it, because if everything would have been different, I think that I would not be as strong as I am.”

That is a true story. As she was able to find the blessing inside her story, her life completely changed from being a victim of circumstance to being a powerful, young women in charge of her life and her happiness. She put herself through 5 years of college and is now a middle school math teacher.

______________________________________________________________Dina Dove

As an author, inspirational speaker, and coach, I am dedicated to helping people remember who they really are at their deepest core and discover their unique path to career and personal fulfillment.

For further information, please contact me at Dina@BagladysGuide.com

www.dinadove.com

http://www.facebook.com/bagladysguide

 

 

I Need an Expert

July 10, 2013

Do you ever find yourself saying that?  Feeling inadequate seems to be a part of life for most of us. But truly, our thoughts betray us.

That’s one reason I wrote my first book, The Baglady’s Guide to Elegant Living.  In it, a little old lady helps a young woman find “the expert within”. Ever since then, readers longingly tell me that they want a ‘Baglady’ of their own… Someone to love them through the process.

You may need a guide to aid you in finding your internal ‘expert.’ It needs to be someone who specifically leads you back to yourself, NOT someone to be it for you!

Don’t worry that you feel inadequate now. It took me a long time looking outside before I finally learned to go within.  So, don’t feel alone in your thoughts.  Our whole lives we have been taught to refer to experts outside, so it takes some time to learn to trust your own instincts and inner guidance.

Just determine to uncover the ‘expert’ that is you! It is a totally transforming experience.

Follow your own heart. It will never lead you astray.

______________________________________________________________Dina Dove

As an author, inspirational speaker, and coach, I am dedicated to helping people remember who they really are at their deepest core and discover their unique path to career and personal fulfillment.

For further information, please contact me at Dina@BagladysGuide.com

www.dinadove.com

www.facebook.com/BagladysGuide

 

Planting Forgiveness

July 6, 2013

Several years ago, I had a really big issue. Six close business associates turned their backs on me. These people had been my friends and I felt extremely betrayed. Even then I knew the power of forgiveness but, I just couldn’t do it. Because I couldn’t forgive, I couldn’t move forward. So I had an inner struggle going on as well.

 I’ve spoken about the fact that making a habit takes about 21days. And…. I sure needed to change my bad habit of focusing on my hurt. So I lined up 6 mugs in my kitchen window and planted a tiny plant in each one, knowing that it would take a good deal of attention to make them grow. And… that it would take at least 21 days.

The first day I forced myself pray for blessings for those 6 people. Each day after that I associated my love and good wishes for the health of each person’s plant with good thoughts toward the person that plant represented.

The plants flourished and my forgiveness and ability to move ahead also happened.  6 weeks later, spring had arrived and I planted them in my garden where they remain all these years later. And you know, even to this day, when I see them out there, I lovingly remember their association to those six people.

___________________________________________________________________Dina Dove

As an author, inspirational speaker, and coach, I am dedicated to helping people remember who they really are at their deepest core and discover their unique path to career and personal fulfillment.

For further information, please contact me at Dina@BagladysGuide.com

www.dinadove.com

www.facebook.com/BagladysGuide.com

Balancing the Laws

July 5, 2013

Truly successful people operate in accordance with the Natural Laws on a consistent basis. You may have heard of the Law of Attraction. It is one of them.

The natural laws by which the world operates are as real as gravity. The problem is, they cannot be seen with the eyes. There are many references both secular and religious.. Here are some well known biblical references.

“Seek and you will find.”

“Pray without ceasing.”

“You reap what you sow.”

They aren’t just “good ideas”, as one might think. They are the premises by which the universe operates.  We do not take them seriously enough.

If you were to take only these three with the same belief you give to the law of gravity, you would have amazing transformation in your career, relationships, and finances.

Balance your implementation of the natural laws. Operate according to them, and your life will magically fall into place.

______________________________________________Dina Dove

As an author, inspirational speaker, and coach, I am dedicated to helping people remember who they really are at their deepest core and discover their unique path to career and personal fulfillment.

For further information, please contact me at Dina@BagladysGuide.com

www.dinadove.com

www.facebook.com/BagladysGuide.com

Change, Glorious Change

July 2, 2013

While many people balk at change, I love it. In fact, when there is not enough change in my life, I get complacent and feel like life is standing still.

Over the last couple days, I’ve totally moved out of one part of my huge house and into the other half. It’s given me a chance to shake things up a bit.

Look at all the great things that have happened just from that change.

  1. I’ve rediscovered many things that I’d completely forgotten that I had.
  2. In rediscovering my high school yearbook and looking at my 17 year old self on the pages, I noticed how much my physical appearance had changed.
  3. In that change I also became more grateful  for the fact that I’m much wiser and more contented. So what if there a wrinkles. I’ve come to love myself as I am.

Back to the move and the positive aspects of that change, I am invigorated by putting my life back together in a new way. I’ve cleaned out the old and started anew in a fresh office, looking out on a new balcony.

Shake your life up now and then. It’s a boost to your creativity.

Ah! The glory of change.

______________________________________________Dina Dove

As an author, inspirational speaker, and coach, I am dedicated to helping people remember who they really are at their deepest core and discover their unique path to career and personal fulfillment.

For further information, please contact me at Dina@BagladysGuide.com

www.dinadove.com

www.facebook.com/BagladysGuide.com

Skepticism is a Good Thing

April 30, 2013

I love a skeptic. In fact, I am one myself. A wise person does not hitch their wagon to every new thing that comes down the pike. Discernment is important.

There is a difference between discernment and bull headedness though. And that is a very important difference.

We’ve all heard the saying, “If it sounds too good to be true, it probably is.”

I’ve got some powerful truths to teach you, And…. You will need to make an effort.  Examining your skepticism and getting control over it will be a first step. (Hang it up in the closet for a little while. You can always bring it back out if need be…. But I promise you will not be wanting it back with regards to this.)

The reason? Once your mind is open to experimenting with these new ideas, you will prove to yourself, in your own life, that they work.

Give each new possibility a chance, just a fair chance to change your mind.  This you must do, because if, while being a skeptic you insist on also being bull headed, learning something new, no matter how valuable, will be impossible for you.

You will not be expected to believe anything that you are unable to prove out in your own experience. So do the work, personal work. There is no scientific data to swallow hook, line and sinker.  You alone will be the judge.

Learn some new Laws of the Universe, Natural Laws. They are not really new, just new to you.

At first, no matter what you see change in your life, they still may be hard to believe, you may want to think it’s an accident that your life has suddenly started to work. However, as time goes on and you continue to act and think in the new way, you will see the consistent results over and over again until you can no longer deny that something has changed.

Years ago, I was at a lecture by Wayne Dwyer. The one thing in his speech that stuck with me was that once an individual proves something out in their own life, from that point on, no one will ever be able to tell them that it is impossible. He said, “No one can ever convince me that a person cannot go from rags to riches, because I did it myself. I left the orphanage with nothing and became wealthy.”

There is no proof more powerful than proving it to yourself.

So why isn’t everyone doing it? For the very reason we have been discussing, most people hold on very, very tightly to their original beliefs.

Changing your mind is the most important change you will ever make.

The very hardest part about changing your mind is the first step. That first step is simply a willingness to consider and then examine a new way of being.

_____________________________________________________________Dina Dove

As an author, inspirational speaker, and coach, I am dedicated to helping people remember who they really are at their deepest core and discover their unique path to career and personal fulfillment.

For further information, please contact me at Dina@BagladysGuide.com

www.dinadove.com

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