Posts Tagged ‘humor’

Challenging your Beliefs

July 4, 2013

 

Every one of us grew up with a set of beliefs. Many times they were passed down from one generation to another. Certain words meant certain things, but were the representations really true? In some cases, perception is far from reality.

Sometimes it can take cathartic events to call our previously held views into question.

Being as I live in Kansas, a state well publicized for its tornados, I was thrilled when I moved into my house. It had a basement.

We’ve had lots of tornado activity in our area over the 3 years I’ve lived here, and I’ve retreated to the basement on several occasions. However, nothing had ever come close enough to really get scary. That is,  until my town was in the path of what they call a ‘straight line wind’ of almost 100 miles per hour (Hurricane force winds). I was roused from sleep by the ferocious storm at about 6am. Soon after, the electricity went out, so I grabbed my flashlight and retreated to the safety of my basement.

NOT!

As shingles and siding were thrown against the outside of the house, for the first time, there was a real danger. And, in the event of a tornado, a REAL basement might have saved me. However, as I sat in the dark, it suddenly dawned on me that my basement is only 2 feet underground. The entrance to my home is high above the ground. When you open the door from the first floor and step down, it certainly seems like you’re descending deep into the earth. But the first floor is about 6 feet above the ground. So, 8 feet down is actually only 2 ft. below ground.

It turns out that my basement is the perfect depth to protect the inhabitants of Lilliput. A mouse or a squirrel might be safe, but this is no kind of shelter for a human being.

A creepy feeling came over me at that moment as the town outside was ravaged. I took up a spot under the stairwell and prayed for the best. Then I marveled at how a person can be totally oblivious to the real truth about a situation even though it’s been right there in front of them all along.

This basement story is just a small example of how deceived we can be by our long held perceptions.

So how can you tell that it’s time to rethink some important aspects of your life? Ask yourself this question.  Are you truly happy and empowered by the percepts with which you live your life? If not, it’s time to latch onto a new way of thinking.

______________________________________________Dina Dove

As an author, inspirational speaker, and coach, I am dedicated to helping people remember who they really are at their deepest core and discover their unique path to career and personal fulfillment.

For further information, please contact me at Dina@BagladysGuide.com

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Change, Glorious Change

July 2, 2013

While many people balk at change, I love it. In fact, when there is not enough change in my life, I get complacent and feel like life is standing still.

Over the last couple days, I’ve totally moved out of one part of my huge house and into the other half. It’s given me a chance to shake things up a bit.

Look at all the great things that have happened just from that change.

  1. I’ve rediscovered many things that I’d completely forgotten that I had.
  2. In rediscovering my high school yearbook and looking at my 17 year old self on the pages, I noticed how much my physical appearance had changed.
  3. In that change I also became more grateful  for the fact that I’m much wiser and more contented. So what if there a wrinkles. I’ve come to love myself as I am.

Back to the move and the positive aspects of that change, I am invigorated by putting my life back together in a new way. I’ve cleaned out the old and started anew in a fresh office, looking out on a new balcony.

Shake your life up now and then. It’s a boost to your creativity.

Ah! The glory of change.

______________________________________________Dina Dove

As an author, inspirational speaker, and coach, I am dedicated to helping people remember who they really are at their deepest core and discover their unique path to career and personal fulfillment.

For further information, please contact me at Dina@BagladysGuide.com

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Growing Money Trees

April 26, 2013

Have you ever had someone say to you “Money doesn’t grow on trees?”

I know my parents used to say that to me when I wanted the latest new outfit or needed money to go to the city pool.

You know, how we personally feel about money is transferred, through our consciousness, directly to our children. Yikes!

Of course we have budgets to keep in mind and certainly keeping the kids spending habits in check is important. But, how about a new and more positive twist on the old money stories?

Instead of telling them, in essence, that you ‘can’t afford it’, help them to develop their creativity with a different word pattern.

Try statements like these.

“How could we find the money to get that new outfit?”

“What can you do to earn what you need to go to the the movies this weekend?”

Helping put a personal value on what your children want is a win-win for both of you. It inspires creativity, teaches them some personal accountability and shows them how to build their own ‘Money Tree’ from the ground – up.

_______________________________________________________Dina Dove____________

As an author, inspirational speaker, and coach, I am dedicated to helping people remember who they really are at their deepest core and discover their unique path to career and personal fulfillment.

For further information, please contact me at Dina@BagladysGuide.com

www.dinadove.com

www.facebook.com/BagladysGuide.com

Recognizing the Gifts

April 25, 2013

Isn’t it true? Most of us live our lives forward and understand the meaning of them only when looking back.

While I was spending years railing at God for keeping me trapped in a life I hated, he was giving me multiple avenues out. I didn’t notice. I was too busy being sure that it was going to look a certain way. My way.

In my mind, when I exited my living hell, I would be debt-free, all my facilities leases would be at their ends, and all my company’s ongoing catalog contracts would be completed. On top of that, I would have a nice nest egg and my employees would all be perfectly taken care of.

Immediately this reminds me of the saying, “If you want to make God laugh, tell him your plans.”

Now in the retrospect of my mind, He wasn’t laughing. God was just looking at me with compassion, moving His head gently back and forth thinking, “Dina, Dina, Dina…”

It took a long time. I got the ball bat to the head over and over because I was so dense as to not see all the gifts that were being laid at my feet; gifts I walked over as if they were nothing… because the wrapping paper was all wrong.

To use the gift analogy, I was so sure that my gift would be wrapped in red paper with gold ribbon. Instead, I was continually given beautiful royal blue packages with metallic silver ribbon. Because they looked so different, I kept refusing to accept them.  And all along, the blue box was the answer to my dreams.

Now looking back, I can see that the Universe had a much better plan all along, but I was blinded by my own ideas.

I’m smarter now, my experience has taught me to change.  I have learned to live life consciously while moving forward, accepting all my gifts as I go.

________________________________________________________       Dina Dove_______

As an author, inspirational speaker, and coach, I am dedicated to helping people remember who they really are at their deepest core and discover their unique path to career and personal fulfillment.

For further information, please contact me at Dina@BagladysGuide.com

www.dinadove.com

www.facebook.com/BagladysGuide

A Funny Thing Happened on the Way to the Rest of My Life

April 16, 2013

Since there are no accidents, it would follow that I came across a surprising group of people ‘on purpose’ though my intent was only to get a weekend in Arkansas. (It’s so humorous the way spirit gets me where it wants me by making me think I’m going for some other reason.) In this case, my boyfriend offered the trip if I would attend a dowser’s meeting while we were there. I thought, no problem, I can sit thru an hour for a weekend. Little did I know what a surprise I was in for.

If you’ve ever met one of the old time dowsers, you would agree, they are ‘the salt of the earth’, unassuming, humble people. Many are farmers. You’d never imagine they would have so much to teach us about spirituality and the nature of God in action.

They said anyone could learn. And before the meeting, they taught me how to find an underground stream of water in a one hour lesson. Nothing was visible to the naked eye…. And yet, the L-rods (a standard dowsing tool) crossed over the stream. Then they told us that there had been a coin placed under the large rug in the middle of the meeting room and that we were to use the same L-rods to find the coin. Sure enough, I was led to coin I was not able to see.

If you had told me that something like this was possible, I would not have believed it. I’m a skeptic. And yet, I was led right to the coin. But how? How was this possible?

There’s so much more that can be said, little nuances I’d love to talk about more in the future. But for today, the simple answer is…… It’s an example of the promises of old and that still hold true today. “Ask and it shall be given you.” “Seek and ye shall find.”

In our modern world where so much technology and sophistication are available to us, it’s easy to overlook and even consciously forget the truths that will ‘set us free.’

I Win. You Lose. Bah-Humbug!

April 16, 2013

I’m spoiled! I can’t work like that anymore. I’ve seen the light.

My transformation took place in the space of a 3 hour game of “Cash Flow”.

That’s right, a game about amassing money.

For what I gained you would think that I had attended a revival.

It was a spiritual experience for me. I still get goose bumps when I think of it.

“Cash flow” is a game where the object is to develop enough passive income to get out of the rat race.

In fact, the game piece you move around the board is a rat. Mine was the red rat.

You move around the board kind of like Monopoly. If you don’t have enough money to do the deal on the card to pull, you can try to bargain with the other players to sell them the deal.

It was close to the end of the game and I pulled a great card, only I did not have enough money to do the deal. The guy to my right had the money, and, if he got hold of my card, he would get way ahead of me in the game. However, didn’t want to pay my price, so I was going to let the card go to waste.

Just then, the facilitator came to our table, looked at my great card, and said the words that would change the way I saw life and business forever.

Mark said, “Dina, you are seeing this all wrong. Look around the table. How can you structure a deal with all the players to where you all can get out of the rat race at the same time?” That statement opened up a whole new way of seeing the world to me.

Then he proceeded to show us how, by all chipping in a certain amount of money, every player at the table could participate in the deal that would catapult all of us into the winners circle at that very moment.

The game was a microcosm of the macrocosm that is our collective life. We’re all on this planet together. There is a way for all of us to ‘chip in’ our time, our talents, and our money to make anything we desire a reality.

All we have to do is stop looking at life as….. “If I win you lose or if you win I lose.”

Instead, we can look at the big picture, look at the skills and resources that are needed, and bring a group together that can meet the shared goal by each contributing their passion to the project.

When we can do that, we all win together. And that is ‘The Game of Life’ played out in a way that would make every day feel like Christmas and… maybe even bring a little bit of heaven to earth.

A Smile, a Kind Word and a French Fry

April 12, 2013

Most kids and most parents seem to think that working for McDonalds is not a very worthwhile first job. But I contend that you can learn everything about life and businesses in a stint in the fast food industry.

When I went to work for Sandy’s Drive In (It was later bought out by Hardee’s), the organization proceeded to train us on everything from how to greet a customer to how many French fries to put in a bag.
Being your typical ‘know it all’ kid, I was not impressed with what I referred to as the ‘propaganda training films.’

I was especially put off by the one that explained the huge impact of putting one extra fry in a sack. The film proceeded to explain that the waste of one French fry amounted to a bag of fries within a few short minutes. In the course of a lunch rush it could easily amount to a loss of revenue from 5-6 bags of fries. Multiply that over all the Sandy’s in town and it is a case of fries a day. Multiply that times the hundred stores in the chain over a year’s period and it could easily amount to a hotel full of lost revenue over a year.
“1 French fry? Be real!” I thought.

And the joke was on me.

Later on I came to be a business owner and found that “The French Fry Theory”, as I later came to call it, was the purest form of truth there ever was. And, it applies to everything from paper towels to attitude adjustment.

Though few of us ever consider it, every little thing makes a difference. One French fry can alter the profits of a whole company. What we waste in America is likely enough to feed the rest of the world.

Take the idea further and consider that something as simple as a helping hand received and passed on from one neighbor to another can chance a city. A smile could light up the lives of countless others. It’s the small things that make a big difference.

So, what is in a smile, a kind word and a French fry?

Each one holds the power to change the world.

Simple Instructions for Living a Happy Life

April 6, 2013

  1. Get a Sharpee
  2. Draw a big circle around your heart
  3. Anytime there is a decision to make, check inside the circle.
  4. Listen your heart
  5. Do what makes your heart sing.

Easier said than done? Oh, yes! Living a life of joy is not for the weak of heart.

You must abandon all wish for security and predictability.

They will be replaced with wonder and with awe.

I promise!

Step Back and Get in the Flow

April 18, 2010

In my way of thinking, that’s what vacations are for. 

Sometimes I am just too close to the problem when I’m in a workaholic mode. I might hit a block in the project I’m working on, but my tendency is often to keep trying to break thru it, rather than step back and let the answer emerge.

Can’t we all be so hard headed sometimes? We can be so sure we have the right answer that we can’t see the real truth standing in front of us.

In my best moments, I know the truth.

Life is meant to flow.

On vacations, we just naturally fall into that mode simply by relaxing and allowing ourselves to take a ‘vacation’ from our perceived problems. Miraculously, that different perspective allows new possibilities and solutions to arise.

Just changing your mindset from one of obsessing to wondering can make all the difference.

Take your finances for instance. If you are one of the millions of people in America today who are upside down in mortgage and credit card debt, step back. Consider a new way of thinking. In fact, to truly solve that problem, you absolutely must come to a new way of thinking.

Your financial problems are not really about money in the first place. Something happened long before you got in this position and it happened inside your brain.

Your thoughts about money dictated what you would buy and how you would pay for it. And, believe it or not, even before that, your thoughts about happiness and fulfillment are where it really started.

After all, didn’t you buy all those things, the bigger house and the newer car, because you thought they would make you happy?  Now that you realize the stress that came along with out of control spending was not worth it, you have a wonderful opportunity to change your mind and look at your life through new eyes.

                            Changing your mind is the most important change you will ever make.

The predicament you may be in from the old mindset, can take some time to resolve, but with your new found knowledge, your long term solution is at hand. And, during this time of tightening your belt, you  can now see great purpose in learning the skills that will build a solid financial future for your family.

To everything there is a season. Make this your season of learning.

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The Wisdom of Fairy Tales

April 2, 2010

Snow White and the Seven Dwarfs show us that vanity, envy and jealousy don’t make us popular and…  that love conquers all.

Robert Fulghum wrote that all he ever needed to know he learned in kindergarten.  Actually, in a more sophisticated manner, Dale Carnegie teaches adults similar skills.

Thinking about it, it kind of takes me aback to consider that as adults we are still grappling with the basics.

And then, we wouldn’t want to miss the message in The Tortoise and the Hare. The Hare started off fast  thinking his skills were so superior to the competition that he got all cocky and tried to intimidate the turtle with his bravado.

It certainly did not make him the man of the hour. There are so many examples of this teaching for adults as well.  In the same vein as the attorney who represents himself has a fool for a client, the person who thinks he knows it all, still has a lot to learn.

We generally think that competition is the game we are playing in earth life and that some win while others lose. The real loser is the one who fails to see the value in a different way of being than the one they hold. The Hare couldn’t see any value in the Tortoise, but he had skills that weren’t so obvious to anyone at first. Those very skills and a different way of seeing things ended up winning him the race.

It is actually a very short ride from success to failure. And thinking you can’t fail or that it could never happen to you was pretty short sighted in that story.

The Hare actually had a great deal going for him. He was quite a runner and he had the passion to get off to a quick start.

Instead of respecting his competition, the rabbit taunted the turtle. (Not something he learned in kindergarten.) Everyone figured the hare would win. He was so flamboyant.

Isn’t it true that those who walk around all puffed up and telling us they are great are the ones we usually get behind? All that star power is hard to resist.

And yet, most often, over the long haul it is the quiet, unassuming, consistently moving forward types that go unnoticed.  And, while no one is thinking they have much going on, they are the ones who really excel. They excel at being a good neighbor, a good father to their children, and living a happy, financially secure life as they get older.

They have paid attention to the important areas of life all along. And…. Like the turtle, any hare can do the same thing….probably with one hand tied behind his back. It doesn’t hurt to take a look at the life that can be attained thru building skills that will enable you to go the distance and win at the other important aspects of life too.

It’s time for balance.

And Snow White….. Don’t worry too much about her. She has love and you know what they say about that. “Love is all you need.” LOL