Posts Tagged ‘heart warming’

Prayer- It Doesn’t Work that Way

July 15, 2013

Most people believe that their prayers are limited to those formal times when they specifically bow their heads and address God directly. It doesn’t work that way!

Below is a conversation where a wise little old lady helps a business woman see the reality of her prayers.

 “Okay, about how many hours a day was your focus on your products, employees and customers?”

 “Almost every waking hour was geared to that end. At least 12-16 hours every day.”

 “And how many hours per day would you say you spent venting?

 “Well, just guessing? I’d say I spent about 15 minutes lashing out and expressing my woes angrily to God. That’s about all the energy I had left after working such long hours.”

 I paused, once again reflecting on the pain I was able to pack into those sessions. Then I added, “So….. that would be one fourth of an hour per day.”

 Another pause …………… “Okay “Okay! I get it.

  You’re saying that my focus was at least 50-1 on producing a good product to yelling at God …Wow!”

 I was really kind of shocked by my revelation. In my mind, I spent all my time being angry, but in reality, she was right.

 “I’m not really in tune with the prayer part here, but I sure understand the math. And if I go back to the idea of what you focus on expands that you have been telling me about, I guess it really does ring true here.”

 “See Angela, we are always praying.  Our every thought, action and attitude is telling God what we really want in our lives. 

 Your life IS your prayer!”

  “Can’t you see it?   The life you lead, where you put your energy, is your most prevalent prayer. And certainly a life focused on producing the best products and dedicated to caring for the welfare of your employees was a prayer that was continually answered.  Everything you are telling me, about your employee calling you, about blindly going where the problems were… Well, they were both answers to the prayer that the largest part of your life had become.

 Your prayers were always being answered. You have always been taken care of. You just haven’t been able to see it. Because you did not realize you were getting exactly what you were asking for.

 The more energy, the more attention you put into anything, the more powerful connection there is to God’s help.  And you are never more than a breath away from it.

_______________________________________________________Dina Dove

As an author, inspirational speaker, and coach, I am dedicated to helping people remember who they really are at their deepest core and discover their unique path to career and personal fulfillment.

For further information, please contact me at Dina@BagladysGuide.com

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Are You Waiting for Perfection?

July 14, 2013

Here’s a story that might alter your point of view.

Many years ago, in an episode of Lou Grant, the paper’s editor, upon finding that his elderly mother did not have long to live, went home to spend her last days with her.

As he paced around in her bedroom, he was lamenting the fact that he had always hoped to find the perfect time to take her on a wonderful trip, just the two of them. And now they would not be able to go.

She sweetly motioned for him to come over and sit beside her and told him that he was living his life and that was exactly what she had wanted him to do. She added that he had been the perfect son for her and that she was satisfied with her life.

And then she told him a story that I’ve never forgotten.

She reminded him about his father who had passed years before…

“Do you remember how your father used to pack a picnic lunch and we’d head off to the ocean? Your dad so wanted to find the perfect place with the perfect view for our lunch. And we would drive and drive. There were lots of beautiful places, but he wanted to find the perfect place. Hours  would pass. I’d suggest, “Why don’t we stop here?”

But your dad would respond that he wanted to wait for the perfect spot.  With all the places we could have stopped, none were perfect enough for our picnic. Late in the day we ended up eating our picnic in the car as the sun was getting ready to set, never having stopped, because he never found the perfect place.

And then she focused back on her son, “My life has been wonderful. I couldn’t ask for a better son. I do not need to go on that trip. Just sit with me here and let’s enjoy the time we have right now.”

Don’t miss the beauty of the life you have right here, right now, while you are busy looking for some other situation or some other time when things will be perfect.

Change you perception and find the perfection in the present moment.

______________________________________________________________Dina Dove

As an author, inspirational speaker, and coach, I am dedicated to helping people remember who they really are at their deepest core and discover their unique path to career and personal fulfillment.

For further information, please contact me at Dina@BagladysGuide.com

www.dinadove.com

http://www.facebook.com/BagladysGuide

The Rich Tapestry of Every Life

July 11, 2013

There are messages woven into the circumstances of each individual life. It is left to us to discover them, unravel their meaning, and find the blessing within.

I met an amazing little girl. Even at five years old, she was wise beyond her years and able to carry on a conversation as if she were an adult. She was, however, holding a crushing loss on her heart. She felt lost in a world without a mother. By the time she was seven, we were buddies and spent our time together playing a question game. We took turns coming up with queries to answer. At first we learned each other’s favorite colors and ice cream flavors. Over time, our questions became much more creative and the answer much more creative and the answers were more insightful as to our deeper thoughts on life. Her feelings of loss and wishing she had her mother would work into so many of her answers. I loved her, but no love can replace that of a mother. At least I could listen.

As she grew up, new answers would emerge. Her answer to “Who would you most like to have dinner with/” changed from Jesus to to her latest pop star; things like that. But longing for the mother she lost was central to many of her answers.

Then one day came the repeated question we had answered so many times before, “If you could change one thing about your past, what would it be?” In the past, her mom would not have died. But now, the 14 year old, long deprived of her mother answered, “You know, I used to wish that mom had never died, and, of course, I would have loved to have a mother. But now I see that I wouldn’t change it, because if everything would have been different, I think that I would not be as strong as I am.”

That is a true story. As she was able to find the blessing inside her story, her life completely changed from being a victim of circumstance to being a powerful, young women in charge of her life and her happiness. She put herself through 5 years of college and is now a middle school math teacher.

______________________________________________________________Dina Dove

As an author, inspirational speaker, and coach, I am dedicated to helping people remember who they really are at their deepest core and discover their unique path to career and personal fulfillment.

For further information, please contact me at Dina@BagladysGuide.com

www.dinadove.com

http://www.facebook.com/bagladysguide

 

 

Recognizing the Gifts

April 25, 2013

Isn’t it true? Most of us live our lives forward and understand the meaning of them only when looking back.

While I was spending years railing at God for keeping me trapped in a life I hated, he was giving me multiple avenues out. I didn’t notice. I was too busy being sure that it was going to look a certain way. My way.

In my mind, when I exited my living hell, I would be debt-free, all my facilities leases would be at their ends, and all my company’s ongoing catalog contracts would be completed. On top of that, I would have a nice nest egg and my employees would all be perfectly taken care of.

Immediately this reminds me of the saying, “If you want to make God laugh, tell him your plans.”

Now in the retrospect of my mind, He wasn’t laughing. God was just looking at me with compassion, moving His head gently back and forth thinking, “Dina, Dina, Dina…”

It took a long time. I got the ball bat to the head over and over because I was so dense as to not see all the gifts that were being laid at my feet; gifts I walked over as if they were nothing… because the wrapping paper was all wrong.

To use the gift analogy, I was so sure that my gift would be wrapped in red paper with gold ribbon. Instead, I was continually given beautiful royal blue packages with metallic silver ribbon. Because they looked so different, I kept refusing to accept them.  And all along, the blue box was the answer to my dreams.

Now looking back, I can see that the Universe had a much better plan all along, but I was blinded by my own ideas.

I’m smarter now, my experience has taught me to change.  I have learned to live life consciously while moving forward, accepting all my gifts as I go.

________________________________________________________       Dina Dove_______

As an author, inspirational speaker, and coach, I am dedicated to helping people remember who they really are at their deepest core and discover their unique path to career and personal fulfillment.

For further information, please contact me at Dina@BagladysGuide.com

www.dinadove.com

www.facebook.com/BagladysGuide

A Funny Thing Happened on the Way to the Rest of My Life

April 16, 2013

Since there are no accidents, it would follow that I came across a surprising group of people ‘on purpose’ though my intent was only to get a weekend in Arkansas. (It’s so humorous the way spirit gets me where it wants me by making me think I’m going for some other reason.) In this case, my boyfriend offered the trip if I would attend a dowser’s meeting while we were there. I thought, no problem, I can sit thru an hour for a weekend. Little did I know what a surprise I was in for.

If you’ve ever met one of the old time dowsers, you would agree, they are ‘the salt of the earth’, unassuming, humble people. Many are farmers. You’d never imagine they would have so much to teach us about spirituality and the nature of God in action.

They said anyone could learn. And before the meeting, they taught me how to find an underground stream of water in a one hour lesson. Nothing was visible to the naked eye…. And yet, the L-rods (a standard dowsing tool) crossed over the stream. Then they told us that there had been a coin placed under the large rug in the middle of the meeting room and that we were to use the same L-rods to find the coin. Sure enough, I was led to coin I was not able to see.

If you had told me that something like this was possible, I would not have believed it. I’m a skeptic. And yet, I was led right to the coin. But how? How was this possible?

There’s so much more that can be said, little nuances I’d love to talk about more in the future. But for today, the simple answer is…… It’s an example of the promises of old and that still hold true today. “Ask and it shall be given you.” “Seek and ye shall find.”

In our modern world where so much technology and sophistication are available to us, it’s easy to overlook and even consciously forget the truths that will ‘set us free.’

Just Stay

April 13, 2013

We’ve all heard that everything happens for a reason.

I think the universe is perfectly designed in such a way that there is no encounter and no experience that is an accident. And, even more amazing than that. That there is a blessing in every moment, no matter what it looks like at the time. God is working His magic in our lives every second of every day.

I normally write original content for my blog, but today I just had to share this story that I received in an email. In my searches, I could not find who wrote it or whose story it actually is. It is so powerful in its message of blessing that I could not resist sharing it with you.

Just Stay

A nurse took the tired, anxious serviceman to the bedside. ”Your son is here,” she said to the old man.
She had to repeat the words several times before the patient’s eyes opened.

Heavily sedated because of the pain of his heart attack, he dimly saw the young uniformed Marine standing outside the oxygen tent. He reached out his hand. The Marine wrapped his toughened fingers around the old man’s limp ones, squeezing a message of love and encouragement.

The nurse brought a chair so that the Marine could sit beside the bed. All through the night the young Marine sat there in the poorly lighted ward, holding the old man’s hand and offering him words of love and strength.
Occasionally, the nurse suggested that the Marine move away and rest awhile.

He refused. Whenever the nurse came into the ward, the Marine was oblivious to her and of the night noises of the hospital – the clanking of the oxygen tank, the laughter of the night staff members exchanging greetings, the cries and moans of the other patients.

Now and then she heard him say a few gentle words. The dying man said nothing, only held tightly to his son all through the night.

Along towards dawn, the old man died. The Marine released the now lifeless hand he had been holding and went to tell the nurse. While she did what she had to do, he waited.

Finally, she returned. She started to offer words of sympathy, but the Marine interrupted her.

”Who was that man?” he asked.

The nurse was startled, “He was your father,” she answered.
”No, he wasn’t,” the Marine replied. “I never saw him before in my life.”

”Then why didn’t you say something when I took you to him?”

”I knew right away there had been a mistake, but I also knew he needed his son, and his son just wasn’t here. When I realized that he was too sick to tell whether or not I was his son, knowing how much he needed me, I stayed.
I came here tonight to find a Mr. William Grey. His Son was killed in Iraq today, and I was sent to inform him. What was this gentleman’s name?
The nurse with tears in her eyes answered, Mr. William Grey………….

The next time someone needs you … just be there. Just stay.

A Smile, a Kind Word and a French Fry

April 12, 2013

Most kids and most parents seem to think that working for McDonalds is not a very worthwhile first job. But I contend that you can learn everything about life and businesses in a stint in the fast food industry.

When I went to work for Sandy’s Drive In (It was later bought out by Hardee’s), the organization proceeded to train us on everything from how to greet a customer to how many French fries to put in a bag.
Being your typical ‘know it all’ kid, I was not impressed with what I referred to as the ‘propaganda training films.’

I was especially put off by the one that explained the huge impact of putting one extra fry in a sack. The film proceeded to explain that the waste of one French fry amounted to a bag of fries within a few short minutes. In the course of a lunch rush it could easily amount to a loss of revenue from 5-6 bags of fries. Multiply that over all the Sandy’s in town and it is a case of fries a day. Multiply that times the hundred stores in the chain over a year’s period and it could easily amount to a hotel full of lost revenue over a year.
“1 French fry? Be real!” I thought.

And the joke was on me.

Later on I came to be a business owner and found that “The French Fry Theory”, as I later came to call it, was the purest form of truth there ever was. And, it applies to everything from paper towels to attitude adjustment.

Though few of us ever consider it, every little thing makes a difference. One French fry can alter the profits of a whole company. What we waste in America is likely enough to feed the rest of the world.

Take the idea further and consider that something as simple as a helping hand received and passed on from one neighbor to another can chance a city. A smile could light up the lives of countless others. It’s the small things that make a big difference.

So, what is in a smile, a kind word and a French fry?

Each one holds the power to change the world.

The Very Last Time

April 11, 2013

Thinking on the theme of “the last time”, I’m reminded of the lyrics to a song I heard many years ago.

It started out…
“A friend of mine is going blind, but thru the dimness
He sees so much better than me.
“And he cherishes each new thing that he sees.
And he’ll save them for when he’s in darkness again.”

Consider the person who, through the ravages of disease, knows that their days are numbered.
How much different they must see.

My brother passed away after a long struggle with cancer. He was an outdoorsman. His career as a fishing guide spanned 17 years. And, he absolutely loved what he did.

That last winter, when hunting season was over, he proclaimed that that was the last time he would go to deer camp. The cold and the spread of the cancer to his hip had made it a difficult season in a deer blind.

I can imagine that, like the man who was going blind, even in his discomfort, he was also storing every detail in the woods; the crisp winter air, the subtle rustle of the deer, the camaraderie with his friends.
Knowing it was the last time, each moment must have been so precious to him.

In a way, he was lucky, because he heard the message. “This could be the last time.”
And hearing that, loud and clear, I bet he savored the moments more than most.

The truth is…
For all of us…. ‘This could be the last time.’

The last time you drive down a beautiful roadway

The last time you sing the national anthem.

The last time you speak to a loved one

This could be the last time…..
It’s a powerful thought that calls on us to take notice.
And… to cherish the moments of our lives.

Amazing Gifts in Brown Paper Packaging

April 9, 2013

Exciting things happen everywhere at every moment. Most often we fail to notice them. They are so subtle, so ‘unimportant looking’… like packages wrapped in plain brown paper.

Some of the most important things and some of the most important people fail to impress us at first blush.  We tend to judge a book by its cover. We make an early snap judgment based on appearances.

If someone is bigger than life, famous, and throws around the names of their ‘important cronies’ or their ‘grand accomplishments,’ we tend to look on them in awe and rush to be near them and their perceived power. We look right past what we consider to be the small, inconsequential people standing right in front of us.

Sam Walton drove the same old pickup for years. You could likely to run across him in a bibbed overalls looking like an old farmer. Imagine him driving on a new car lot in that truck. Can’t you just see the salesmen looking at each other, hoping someone else will go out and waste their time on the old man?

Jesus was born in a lowly manger. No innkeeper would even make room for him. Mary and Joseph came into town, dusty from a long trip… not looking very important. An amazing thing was about to happen. Some lucky innkeeper could have played a big part in the story, but it all looked very ordinary and unimportant to him.  He dismissed them without regard.

And now who can forget Susan Boyle. You remember her, the frumpy Scottish matron with the voice of an angel. She came on stage on a UK talent program. The camera shot to the judges who were all rolling their eyes. The audience was snickering. She didn’t look like a star. In fact, they thought she was joke. Then she opened her mouth and brought the world to its feet.

Each person born to earth is amazing in their own special way, not to be looked past, or around, not to be ignored. Brown paper packages…  amazing gifts inside.

Simple Instructions for Living a Happy Life

April 6, 2013

  1. Get a Sharpee
  2. Draw a big circle around your heart
  3. Anytime there is a decision to make, check inside the circle.
  4. Listen your heart
  5. Do what makes your heart sing.

Easier said than done? Oh, yes! Living a life of joy is not for the weak of heart.

You must abandon all wish for security and predictability.

They will be replaced with wonder and with awe.

I promise!