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The Rich Tapestry of Every Life

July 11, 2013

There are messages woven into the circumstances of each individual life. It is left to us to discover them, unravel their meaning, and find the blessing within.

I met an amazing little girl. Even at five years old, she was wise beyond her years and able to carry on a conversation as if she were an adult. She was, however, holding a crushing loss on her heart. She felt lost in a world without a mother. By the time she was seven, we were buddies and spent our time together playing a question game. We took turns coming up with queries to answer. At first we learned each other’s favorite colors and ice cream flavors. Over time, our questions became much more creative and the answer much more creative and the answers were more insightful as to our deeper thoughts on life. Her feelings of loss and wishing she had her mother would work into so many of her answers. I loved her, but no love can replace that of a mother. At least I could listen.

As she grew up, new answers would emerge. Her answer to “Who would you most like to have dinner with/” changed from Jesus to to her latest pop star; things like that. But longing for the mother she lost was central to many of her answers.

Then one day came the repeated question we had answered so many times before, “If you could change one thing about your past, what would it be?” In the past, her mom would not have died. But now, the 14 year old, long deprived of her mother answered, “You know, I used to wish that mom had never died, and, of course, I would have loved to have a mother. But now I see that I wouldn’t change it, because if everything would have been different, I think that I would not be as strong as I am.”

That is a true story. As she was able to find the blessing inside her story, her life completely changed from being a victim of circumstance to being a powerful, young women in charge of her life and her happiness. She put herself through 5 years of college and is now a middle school math teacher.

______________________________________________________________Dina Dove

As an author, inspirational speaker, and coach, I am dedicated to helping people remember who they really are at their deepest core and discover their unique path to career and personal fulfillment.

For further information, please contact me at Dina@BagladysGuide.com

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Planting Forgiveness

July 6, 2013

Several years ago, I had a really big issue. Six close business associates turned their backs on me. These people had been my friends and I felt extremely betrayed. Even then I knew the power of forgiveness but, I just couldn’t do it. Because I couldn’t forgive, I couldn’t move forward. So I had an inner struggle going on as well.

 I’ve spoken about the fact that making a habit takes about 21days. And…. I sure needed to change my bad habit of focusing on my hurt. So I lined up 6 mugs in my kitchen window and planted a tiny plant in each one, knowing that it would take a good deal of attention to make them grow. And… that it would take at least 21 days.

The first day I forced myself pray for blessings for those 6 people. Each day after that I associated my love and good wishes for the health of each person’s plant with good thoughts toward the person that plant represented.

The plants flourished and my forgiveness and ability to move ahead also happened.  6 weeks later, spring had arrived and I planted them in my garden where they remain all these years later. And you know, even to this day, when I see them out there, I lovingly remember their association to those six people.

___________________________________________________________________Dina Dove

As an author, inspirational speaker, and coach, I am dedicated to helping people remember who they really are at their deepest core and discover their unique path to career and personal fulfillment.

For further information, please contact me at Dina@BagladysGuide.com

www.dinadove.com

www.facebook.com/BagladysGuide.com

No ordinary book review for “The Baglady”.

September 16, 2008

I’ve been adopted by the most wonderful groups of ladies, the Merry Hearts of Columbus. Earlier this year, after giving a talk at their monthly meeting, they all fell in love with The Baglady’s Guide to Elegant Living. Unbeknownst to me, I was in the company of a small army of promoters with the talent to back it all up.

 

It just so happens that one of the women, Betty Laswell, was well known for her dramatic interpretations of books. She calls her performances ‘book reviews’ but they are so much more. Sunday afternoon, Betty, now in her 80s, sat in front of an audience of almost 100 people. Since the conversations between the characters take place in a city park, she was sitting on a park bench surrounded by trees and shrubs. Betty’s individual characterizations of both Angela, with her questionable attitude, and the 80 year old Rose, who is sweet and unassuming, enthralled the crowd. She took the audience right inside the world of the Baglady.

 

And what a thrill it was for me. No ordinary book review. That’s for sure. We took a video of the event, so watch for some clips very soon.

My Life in a Holding Pattern

August 17, 2008

Sometimes I think I need to go back and read my own book. You would think that, since I wrote it, I would have a good handle on “loving the life I have.” And yet, I still fall into the thought of wanting things to be different.

For years I ran, and later owned, a small hotel. It was a beautiful building and a good life. But I remembered and longed for the house of my dreams that I had left behind in Houston. I was satisfied…. but I still thought I would be happier with that house and that lifestyle.

Then one day I remember coming down the stairs and looking out at the hotel as if seeing it for the first time. Suddenly I realized all that it had given me; A beautiful place to live (I had a great loft on the top floor) and an easier lifestyle that allowed time for friends and reflection. Guests came and went. There had been great conversations. And… for the first time I realized that I loved the life I’d been given, even though I would have never chosen it in a million years.

I sold the hotel 2 years ago. By default, I moved into the only other property I owned. It’s a huge 100 year old Victorian home. I had purchased it as an investment property with the intent of flipping it and finding a house more in keeping wtih my personal style. I’ve had it on the market for over 2 years  while I’ve lived in a holding pattern…. waiting to land where I really belong. Certainly it is not here, I’ve been thinking.

This morning I woke up with the sun shining in my windows, a cool breeze lifting up the curtains. I jumped in the shower, got dressed and came down stairs as if for the first time. Walking thru the rooms, I felt at home for the first time since I’ve lived here. I felt at home! Happy, blessed and thrilled that I live here!

If you know me, when I am really trying to get something done and it doesn’t happen, I eventually start to consider the possiblity that God wants me there in that place, in that circumstance, for some reason. That definitely does not mean that I’m happy about it, but I do consider it.

But today the gift arrived!!!!! I walked downstairs and, for the first time, fell madly and deeply in love with my home. It’s been hours now and I still feel close to tears over the whole experience.  I know this feeling will remain beacause I’ve felt it before. ……a few times; In my business when I finally realized I was there to love the people who worked for me… In the hotel and now here, in this old Victorian home so unlike ‘the modern-art me.’  Once again, something I would have never thought could make me happy has given me a joy I would never have imagined.  Happy Sunday! Happy House! Happy ME!

Men can love the Baglady too!

July 2, 2008

 When thinking about the people who will most like my writing, I always think women. But maybe I’m all wet. I have to admit that not many men have read my book., but the comments I get back from them are really quite amaing to me. They have fallen for the little bag lady too. Below are the comments of David Stacey, an international investment banker who now assists entrepreneurs in preparing and positioning their companies to raise the capital needed to build huge multi-national corporations. You can truly see, from what he wrote that Mr. Stacey is the kind of professional that any business owner would be lucky to have on their team.  (If you would like to reach Mr. Stacey, email me at dina@bagladysguide.com   I’ll make sure he gets your message.)

I told you I bought a copy of your book. Although you indicated it was a book probably more attractive to a female audience, I decided to read it myself. I finished it last night – it has been my night-time reading book in bed this last week! I don’t know if it’s because I have a strong feminine side to me, but I loved it! I sensed it had a strong autobiographical content, and I really felt as if the book had been written for me. You know my story and of how I came unstuck. The thought processes and feelings you describe Angela going through could have been me. I really resonated with this book. I didn’t have a bag lady to help me through my disaster. Franci (David’s wife) was wonderful, but she didn’t help me in the same way. I pretty much had to discover all this by myself.

Certainly, I learned that as I stopped blaming everybody else for my misfortunes (and I can’t quite pinpoint when that was) I do know that I felt progressively released and empowered. I have discovered that, now I’m on the true path to my destiny with the work I now do, everything falls into place in ways they didn’t do before. I found your book empowering, Dina, and, as a result, it is my goal to remember each night and morning, to ask God to make me, each day, a vessel for His love, and to express my true gratitude not only for the wonderful things He has brought into my life, but also the wonderful people. I have put the book on the stack of books that Franci plans to read and told her she will really enjoy it. Thank you for your gift, Dina.

Kindest wishes, David A. Stacey