Make a ‘Paradigm Shift.’

July 3, 2013

Just the meaning of it engenders excitement. A Paradigm Shift is a change from one way of thinking to another. It’s a transformation, a sort of metamorphosis.

Switch from a Competition Mindset to a Cooperation Mindset.

Instead of focusing on getting what you want….

  1. Help other people succeed.
  2. Be generous with your time and talents.
  3. Be happy for the success of others.

Not only will you gain many friends and allies, but these very acts of generosity will lead to your success as well. It’s a win-win for everyone involved.

______________________________________________Dina Dove

As an author, inspirational speaker, and coach, I am dedicated to helping people remember who they really are at their deepest core and discover their unique path to career and personal fulfillment.

For further information, please contact me at Dina@BagladysGuide.com

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Change, Glorious Change

July 2, 2013

While many people balk at change, I love it. In fact, when there is not enough change in my life, I get complacent and feel like life is standing still.

Over the last couple days, I’ve totally moved out of one part of my huge house and into the other half. It’s given me a chance to shake things up a bit.

Look at all the great things that have happened just from that change.

  1. I’ve rediscovered many things that I’d completely forgotten that I had.
  2. In rediscovering my high school yearbook and looking at my 17 year old self on the pages, I noticed how much my physical appearance had changed.
  3. In that change I also became more grateful  for the fact that I’m much wiser and more contented. So what if there a wrinkles. I’ve come to love myself as I am.

Back to the move and the positive aspects of that change, I am invigorated by putting my life back together in a new way. I’ve cleaned out the old and started anew in a fresh office, looking out on a new balcony.

Shake your life up now and then. It’s a boost to your creativity.

Ah! The glory of change.

______________________________________________Dina Dove

As an author, inspirational speaker, and coach, I am dedicated to helping people remember who they really are at their deepest core and discover their unique path to career and personal fulfillment.

For further information, please contact me at Dina@BagladysGuide.com

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The Guru and the Wealthy Man

July 1, 2013

The fact is, until you are ready, no matter how many people try to help you move forward, you won’t be able to do it. Intellectually, I knew the basic premises of my current coaching 40 years ago. Unfortunately, I didn’t take it seriously.

For me, it took losing everything in life I originally thought was valuable before I was willing to consider the possibility that my approach to money, career, and life in general must have been off the mark.  I had followed all the rules, I had worked my butt off, I had the American Dream, a great marriage, and a successful company. It was only after accomplishing all this that I came to know that money and success alone do not make a person happy. I had both and I was miserable.

It got to the point where I was willing to do anything to find out the real truth.  I had spent my entire life deeply mired in the illusion of what I believed would make for happiness. And I was definitely NOT happy.

There a was wealthy, man, a pillar of the community who came upon a guru in a stream talking to his disciples. The man yelled out to the guru, “ I want you to give me enlightenment.”

The Guru invited him into the water to learn with his other followers.

The wealthy man said indignantly, “I am a pillar of the community. I cannot lower myself to stand in a dirty stream and waste my days listening to you.”

With that, the Guru said, “Go your own way then and we will continue here.”

A few days later, the rich man came by and spoke again, demanding that the guru show him enlightenment. To that the guru said, “Put on this harness and go into the city and beg for alms for the poor.” 

Of course, that was way beneath the man’s dignity and he made no attempt to conceal his distaste for what had been suggested.

When he came by and made demands again, the Guru pulled him into the water and held his head under as the man thrashed about trying to break free. When he was finally allowed to come up for air, he sputtered and gasped for breath. Finally gaining his composure, he looked straight at his captor indignently.

The guru said only one final sentence. “When you want enlightenment as much as you wanted that breath of air, you shall have it.”

I could compare my past self and others who determined to hang on to our old beliefs to that man. We may protest a long time. But… when it finally hurts bad enough, we will, at last, be ready to look squarely in the eyes of the truth.

And, the truth will set us free.

______________________________________________Dina Dove

As an author, inspirational speaker, and coach, I am dedicated to helping people remember who they really are at their deepest core and discover their unique path to career and personal fulfillment.

For further information, please contact me at Dina@BagladysGuide.com

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Skepticism is a Good Thing

April 30, 2013

I love a skeptic. In fact, I am one myself. A wise person does not hitch their wagon to every new thing that comes down the pike. Discernment is important.

There is a difference between discernment and bull headedness though. And that is a very important difference.

We’ve all heard the saying, “If it sounds too good to be true, it probably is.”

I’ve got some powerful truths to teach you, And…. You will need to make an effort.  Examining your skepticism and getting control over it will be a first step. (Hang it up in the closet for a little while. You can always bring it back out if need be…. But I promise you will not be wanting it back with regards to this.)

The reason? Once your mind is open to experimenting with these new ideas, you will prove to yourself, in your own life, that they work.

Give each new possibility a chance, just a fair chance to change your mind.  This you must do, because if, while being a skeptic you insist on also being bull headed, learning something new, no matter how valuable, will be impossible for you.

You will not be expected to believe anything that you are unable to prove out in your own experience. So do the work, personal work. There is no scientific data to swallow hook, line and sinker.  You alone will be the judge.

Learn some new Laws of the Universe, Natural Laws. They are not really new, just new to you.

At first, no matter what you see change in your life, they still may be hard to believe, you may want to think it’s an accident that your life has suddenly started to work. However, as time goes on and you continue to act and think in the new way, you will see the consistent results over and over again until you can no longer deny that something has changed.

Years ago, I was at a lecture by Wayne Dwyer. The one thing in his speech that stuck with me was that once an individual proves something out in their own life, from that point on, no one will ever be able to tell them that it is impossible. He said, “No one can ever convince me that a person cannot go from rags to riches, because I did it myself. I left the orphanage with nothing and became wealthy.”

There is no proof more powerful than proving it to yourself.

So why isn’t everyone doing it? For the very reason we have been discussing, most people hold on very, very tightly to their original beliefs.

Changing your mind is the most important change you will ever make.

The very hardest part about changing your mind is the first step. That first step is simply a willingness to consider and then examine a new way of being.

_____________________________________________________________Dina Dove

As an author, inspirational speaker, and coach, I am dedicated to helping people remember who they really are at their deepest core and discover their unique path to career and personal fulfillment.

For further information, please contact me at Dina@BagladysGuide.com

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Beyond the Flat Earth

April 29, 2013

There are a multitude of stories told about how, thru generations, the same action has been performed the same way and yet no one will have the faintest idea why. All involved had the illusion that it was ‘just the way it was supposed to be done.’  After doing the research as to where it all started, it was based on the facts at that time…. maybe 100 years ago, and it has absolutely no validity today.

The problem with our long held beliefs is that they may not even be true. And yet, most of us hold onto them as if our lives depended on it.  Actually, a happy life depends on taking a good look at the old stories, discovering the ones that are just illusions, dropping them, and replacing them with the truth.

Here’s an easy example. The earth was always round, but for centuries, it was believed to be flat. That mistaken belief did not change the earth one bit. It remained round regardless of people’s beliefs.

Just like the flat earth example, we can put on blinders and refuse to listen to the reason. But the truth is still the truth.  We are affected by it whether we believe it or not.

The results you are getting in your life are the result of Natural Laws.  Natural Laws as real as gravity are constantly at work. They go mostly unnoticed by humanity; Many are only now being proven out in the scientific community. However, you don’t have to wait for science to catch up. These laws, once you know about then, and start to consciously cooperate with them, will change everything about the way your life works.

So why not wake up and smell the coffee instead of pretending you have no nose?

Actually the hardest part of learning them will be your willingness to open your mind to see the true workings of the world just beyond the flat earth.

________________________________________________________Dina Dove

As an author, inspirational speaker, and coach, I am dedicated to helping people remember who they really are at their deepest core and discover their unique path to career and personal fulfillment.

For further information, please contact me at Dina@BagladysGuide.com

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“No Wonder I’m Still single. I Live in a Convent”

April 28, 2013

Several years ago,while joking, I said that to a friend.

However, it was true. I had been divorced for 16 years with no good prospects. Considering that, isn’t it interesting that my house used to be the home of the nuns who taught at the Catholic school here in town.

If you have been following my work, you know that I believe we play a huge part in our circumstances. Whether we are conscious of it or not, the Universe is responding to us. That thought can lead to all kinds of fascinating introspection.

See, I think God has an amazing sense of humor and I have a lot of fun watching him interact in my life. I think he is getting a big kick out of me and it finally occurring to me the history of my house.

When I bought this house, I certainly wasn’t thinking about its past inhabitants. (In-habit –ants.)

Ha Ha…. Even that is funny.

Of my own free will, I had purchased it 5 year earlier. It was my hide away as I wrote “The Baglady’s Guide to Elegant Living.” I could see the purpose in being alone then. I needed focus. Indeed, I had an ‘elegant life’ in this big old Victorian.

After trying to sell the house to not avail, it appeared, thru the lack a a buyer, that my time at the convent was not over.  So a couple of years ago, I decided to make it into 3 apartments.

At that time, I moved into the part of the house that had been added on right before I bought it. I rented out the original convent.

That was about 2 years ago. And what do you suppose happened since then? A wonderful man came and swept me off my feet.

It has not escaped me that almost on que, I moved out of the convent and I found a man.

You may think this a mere coincidence, but you must admit it is an interesting one… at the very least.

If you watch your own life, you will see that yours is also full of many coincidences. After awhile, there are so many that they cease to look like ‘just chance.’

Pay attention. Your life really is talking to you.

________________________________________________________ Dina Dove

As an author, inspirational speaker, and coach, I am dedicated to helping people remember who they really are at their deepest core and discover their unique path to career and personal fulfillment.

For further information, please contact me at Dina@BagladysGuide.com

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Step Back and get in the Flow

April 27, 2013

Sometimes I am just too close to the problem when I’m in a workaholic mode. I might hit a block in the project I’m working on, but my tendency is often to keep trying to break thru it, rather than step back and let the answer emerge.

Can’t we all be so hard headed sometimes? We can be so sure we have the right answer that we can’t see the real truth standing in front of us.

In my best moments, I know the truth.

Life is meant to flow.

On vacations, we just naturally fall into that mode simply by relaxing and allowing ourselves to take a ‘vacation’ from our perceived problems. Miraculously, that different perspective allows new possibilities and solutions to arise.

Just changing your mindset from one of obsessing to wondering can make all the difference.

Take finances for instance. If you are one of the millions of people in America today who are upside down in mortgage and credit card debt, step back. Consider a new way of thinking.

In fact, to truly solve that problem, you absolutely must come to a new way of thinking.

Financial problems are not really about money in the first place. Something happened long before a person finds themselves that position and it happened inside their brain.

Your thoughts about money dictate what you buy and how you will pay for it. And, believe it or not, even before that, your thoughts about happiness and fulfillment are where it really started.

People buy all those things, the bigger house and the newer car, because they think those ‘things’ will make them happy.  Once they realize the stress that came along with the out of control spending was not worth it, there is a wonderful opportunity to change and look at life through new eyes.

Changing your mind is the most important change you will ever make.

The predicament was really caused by the old mindset. ‘Things’ are not really what make us happy. We need to find self esteem inside ourselves. Then make purchases with financial intelligence instead of based on emotion. With that new found knowledge, long term solution is at hand.

_______________________________________________________________Dina Dove

As an author, inspirational speaker, and coach, I am dedicated to helping people remember who they really are at their deepest core and discover their unique path to career and personal fulfillment.

For further information, please contact me at Dina@BagladysGuide.com

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Growing Money Trees

April 26, 2013

Have you ever had someone say to you “Money doesn’t grow on trees?”

I know my parents used to say that to me when I wanted the latest new outfit or needed money to go to the city pool.

You know, how we personally feel about money is transferred, through our consciousness, directly to our children. Yikes!

Of course we have budgets to keep in mind and certainly keeping the kids spending habits in check is important. But, how about a new and more positive twist on the old money stories?

Instead of telling them, in essence, that you ‘can’t afford it’, help them to develop their creativity with a different word pattern.

Try statements like these.

“How could we find the money to get that new outfit?”

“What can you do to earn what you need to go to the the movies this weekend?”

Helping put a personal value on what your children want is a win-win for both of you. It inspires creativity, teaches them some personal accountability and shows them how to build their own ‘Money Tree’ from the ground – up.

_______________________________________________________Dina Dove____________

As an author, inspirational speaker, and coach, I am dedicated to helping people remember who they really are at their deepest core and discover their unique path to career and personal fulfillment.

For further information, please contact me at Dina@BagladysGuide.com

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Recognizing the Gifts

April 25, 2013

Isn’t it true? Most of us live our lives forward and understand the meaning of them only when looking back.

While I was spending years railing at God for keeping me trapped in a life I hated, he was giving me multiple avenues out. I didn’t notice. I was too busy being sure that it was going to look a certain way. My way.

In my mind, when I exited my living hell, I would be debt-free, all my facilities leases would be at their ends, and all my company’s ongoing catalog contracts would be completed. On top of that, I would have a nice nest egg and my employees would all be perfectly taken care of.

Immediately this reminds me of the saying, “If you want to make God laugh, tell him your plans.”

Now in the retrospect of my mind, He wasn’t laughing. God was just looking at me with compassion, moving His head gently back and forth thinking, “Dina, Dina, Dina…”

It took a long time. I got the ball bat to the head over and over because I was so dense as to not see all the gifts that were being laid at my feet; gifts I walked over as if they were nothing… because the wrapping paper was all wrong.

To use the gift analogy, I was so sure that my gift would be wrapped in red paper with gold ribbon. Instead, I was continually given beautiful royal blue packages with metallic silver ribbon. Because they looked so different, I kept refusing to accept them.  And all along, the blue box was the answer to my dreams.

Now looking back, I can see that the Universe had a much better plan all along, but I was blinded by my own ideas.

I’m smarter now, my experience has taught me to change.  I have learned to live life consciously while moving forward, accepting all my gifts as I go.

________________________________________________________       Dina Dove_______

As an author, inspirational speaker, and coach, I am dedicated to helping people remember who they really are at their deepest core and discover their unique path to career and personal fulfillment.

For further information, please contact me at Dina@BagladysGuide.com

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Characteristics of Cooperation

April 24, 2013

Yesterday I wrote about the Cooperation Mindset. Today, I’ve provided a list of characteristics indicative of those who practice it.

The way truly successful people think is every bit as important as what they do. In fact, it is the engine that drives the train.

 MOTIVATING FACTORS                   

  • They see opportunity everywhere
  • They are team builders and team players
  • They know everyone has wisdom to share
  • They work cooperatively, not competitively
  • They operate in Win-Win methodology
  • They understand the laws of money
  • They sincerely want success for everyone

PERSONAL CHARACTERISTICS

  • They look ordinary
  • They are generous
  • They are grateful
  • They laugh easily
  • They feel blessed
  • They know how to love
  • They appreciate what they have
  • Their cup is at least half full 

                                                                                                                                                         Dina Dove                                        

As an author, inspirational speaker, and coach, I am dedicated to helping people remember who they really are at their deepest core and discover their unique path to career and personal fulfillment.

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