Are You Waiting for Perfection?

Here’s a story that might alter your point of view.

Many years ago, in an episode of Lou Grant, the paper’s editor, upon finding that his elderly mother did not have long to live, went home to spend her last days with her.

As he paced around in her bedroom, he was lamenting the fact that he had always hoped to find the perfect time to take her on a wonderful trip, just the two of them. And now they would not be able to go.

She sweetly motioned for him to come over and sit beside her and told him that he was living his life and that was exactly what she had wanted him to do. She added that he had been the perfect son for her and that she was satisfied with her life.

And then she told him a story that I’ve never forgotten.

She reminded him about his father who had passed years before…

“Do you remember how your father used to pack a picnic lunch and we’d head off to the ocean? Your dad so wanted to find the perfect place with the perfect view for our lunch. And we would drive and drive. There were lots of beautiful places, but he wanted to find the perfect place. Hours  would pass. I’d suggest, “Why don’t we stop here?”

But your dad would respond that he wanted to wait for the perfect spot.  With all the places we could have stopped, none were perfect enough for our picnic. Late in the day we ended up eating our picnic in the car as the sun was getting ready to set, never having stopped, because he never found the perfect place.

And then she focused back on her son, “My life has been wonderful. I couldn’t ask for a better son. I do not need to go on that trip. Just sit with me here and let’s enjoy the time we have right now.”

Don’t miss the beauty of the life you have right here, right now, while you are busy looking for some other situation or some other time when things will be perfect.

Change you perception and find the perfection in the present moment.

______________________________________________________________Dina Dove

As an author, inspirational speaker, and coach, I am dedicated to helping people remember who they really are at their deepest core and discover their unique path to career and personal fulfillment.

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13 Responses to “Are You Waiting for Perfection?”

  1. Sojourner Walker (@sojossojourns) Says:

    We all need to be reminded of this from time to time. Great post! I enjoyed the story about the picnic 🙂

  2. Brett Dupree (@joyousexpansion) Says:

    Beautiful blog post! Waiting for perfection is a waste of time because it never comes.

  3. Kathy Hadley Says:

    Great post! Instead of looking for “the perfect spot”, I always make where I am and what I’m doing right now the “perfect spot” for me right now. 🙂

    The only moment anyone ever really has is this moment right now. When you learn to make each moment joyful and wonderful, your life is GREAT!



  4. pennymcdaniel62 Says:

    Beautiful story to put “perfection” in check. The “perfect spot” is wherever you put your heart. Thanks, Dina!

  5. Sheri Levenstein Conaway Says:

    Beautiful post, and so true of so many!!! I think what it boils down to is that instead of finding the perfect spot, we need to make the spot we’re in perfect! (wow, sounds like an idea for a blog post!)

    (and I guess I should have read Kathy’s post first! Great minds think alike!)

    • dinadove Says:

      Sheri, that is a main theme in my book as well. Until we learn to love and appreciate the life we have, we’re stuck. Thanks for your comment. That particular story has stuck with me for so many years. I wish I could find that episode and play it for my clients. It was so powerful.

  6. weiselcantlin2 Says:

    I love this. We never know what the next moment in our life will bring. Last November I received a knock on the door at 10:30 at night from a policeman. My son had lost his phone and this was the only way they could reach me to tell me he had been involved in a serious car accident and I needed to call the hospital. I could have lost him that night. The driver he was with hit a tree. LITERALLY 5 days later, my husband was hit by a tow truck on the highway on his way to work. My life came to a complete halt that week and for the next 8 weeks as I nursed them back to where they could function again without me. Nothing else mattered but those moments. Anything can happen. It is so important to live for the now, especially when it comes to telling someone how much they mean to you.

    Thank you again!
    Missy Bell

    • dinadove Says:

      Missy, you are so right. We never know. 8 days ago, my guy suddenly became horribly ill. He was life flighted here to KU Med Center in Kansas City and I have been at his side ever since. I’ve actually been trying to get a personal email out to you to answer your previos question, but for some reason I have been unable to get it to send. Many blessings to you and your family. In moments like this, with John’s tenuious situation, I’m so glad that he knew he was and is loved.

      • weiselcantlin2 Says:

        I am so sorry to hear that. I will keep you both in my thoughts. If you need to reach me privately, I am on Facebook at Missy Cantlin Bell. Let me know if I can verbally be there for you in any way.



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