The Rich Tapestry of Every Life

There are messages woven into the circumstances of each individual life. It is left to us to discover them, unravel their meaning, and find the blessing within.

I met an amazing little girl. Even at five years old, she was wise beyond her years and able to carry on a conversation as if she were an adult. She was, however, holding a crushing loss on her heart. She felt lost in a world without a mother. By the time she was seven, we were buddies and spent our time together playing a question game. We took turns coming up with queries to answer. At first we learned each other’s favorite colors and ice cream flavors. Over time, our questions became much more creative and the answer much more creative and the answers were more insightful as to our deeper thoughts on life. Her feelings of loss and wishing she had her mother would work into so many of her answers. I loved her, but no love can replace that of a mother. At least I could listen.

As she grew up, new answers would emerge. Her answer to “Who would you most like to have dinner with/” changed from Jesus to to her latest pop star; things like that. But longing for the mother she lost was central to many of her answers.

Then one day came the repeated question we had answered so many times before, “If you could change one thing about your past, what would it be?” In the past, her mom would not have died. But now, the 14 year old, long deprived of her mother answered, “You know, I used to wish that mom had never died, and, of course, I would have loved to have a mother. But now I see that I wouldn’t change it, because if everything would have been different, I think that I would not be as strong as I am.”

That is a true story. As she was able to find the blessing inside her story, her life completely changed from being a victim of circumstance to being a powerful, young women in charge of her life and her happiness. She put herself through 5 years of college and is now a middle school math teacher.

______________________________________________________________Dina Dove

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7 Responses to “The Rich Tapestry of Every Life”

  1. fionarynn1974 Says:

    I agree. Every circumstance has a reason and it is, that God is trying to teach us something we need to learn. We may not understand at the time but later on in life we do.

  2. Julie Jordan Scott (@juliejordanscot) Says:

    This is gorgeous… wondrous… lovely. What a mature, gracious young lady. I’m sure you are a blessing in her life!

    I am visiting from the Ultimate Blog Challenge… so glad I did!

  3. Karen Warren Says:

    Thanks for this story. It reminds us that there is always a positive side to everything, even if it takes a while to work out what it is.

    • dinadove Says:

      True, over the years I learned, through experience and looking back with new eyes, that truly every challenge has in it a gift for us. Thank you for your kind words.

  4. teentoolbox Says:

    Thank you so much for sharing this story of strength and triumph. Her resilience and insight remind me of so many young people I connect with in my work. You just added another bright spot to my day.

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